July 9, 2006
Green with Envy
There are many things I love about being part of a community garden. Just yesterday we had a "potluck BBQ" where I got to spend a lot of time with all sorts of people and enjoy wonderful, homemade food.
The biggest downside is jealousy. I can occasionally be overcome by strong feelings of gardening inadequacy just walking around and looking at other people's plots.
My coneflower above, someone elses below
I think its a little bit like High School (or even more like the High Schools I see on TV) where people compare themselves to each other and talk about what everyone else is up to. Or maybe caring how you measure up to your peers is just something you do forever. For example, yesterday I had a conversation that went something like this:
Black Eyed Susan: "Do you know if I should be adding something to my tomatoes right now? I didn't do very well with them last year."
Other Gardener #1: "Oh me either! No one did well, everyone had rot, except for Gardener X, he's just amazing, everyone knows that. And Gardener Y too who has the plot right next to his because the worms went over there. Your tomatoes look really good."
Black Eyed Susan: "Oh p'shaw, but, look at Gardener Z's right next to me. Her's are huge."
(Gardener Z walks over a few minutes later)
Black Eyed Susan: "What are you doing with your tomatoes? They look incredible."
Gardener Z: "Oh, (blushing) I really don't know, I think I put mine in after you but, it may be the type."
Other Gardener #1: "Yes, yes look at the type! Maybe that's it."
Anyway, you get the idea. None of it is mean spirited at all but, I do often walk around looking at what other's have done and wonder if I'll ever be as good at this as I want to be.
Here is my tomato plant below and someone elses on the right. I only have one green tomato so far and its sooo tiny.
Their lavender and my lavender. Where are my flowers?!
And then some things I don't even have.
Fabulous and strange looking flowers and onions.
The truth is, I benefit tremendously from all the gardening gurus in my neighborhood. They share their tips and tricks and often their plants too. I spoke to the woman responsible for these onions on the right and she said I can have some so.....its all ok.